Many men have difficulty approaching women. This seems to be a universal problem, and I’d like to help solve it in this article. First, let’s discuss what actually kills your success with women. The big problem is, you not following the simple rules of engagement that all successful daters follow. A successful dater only cares about what happens, at the location, while he or she is with you. All the other stuff, such as appearance, skills, or conversation topics, only have importance in the initial three minutes.
For that reason, I’m going to give you a checklist of things you should always bring up, when talking to a new woman. Only list things that you really care about. It’s important that you understand exactly what these things are. After all, you should be making an effort to actually DO these things, rather than worrying about having to have them.
1. Never offer to buy her a drink.
Only a very insecure man would let a cheesy line like this slide by. The fact that you’re even bringing the subject up points to your immaturity, and your lack of self-confidence. Don’t worry–I’ll get you out of this. Once you can talk to her like a man, and not a kid in a candy store, you’ll find that these sub verbal clues are fantastic at immediately increasing your success.
2. Don’t be negative, ever.
Chances are you’ve done this at some point or another. You may have even been on the phone for an hour telling her about your horrible day at work. This is why she passed you by… forget about the great conversation you had. Keep it simple, and focus on the positive.
3. Pay for things!
This one should be obvious (but people are obviously always making assumptions) while paying for a dinner or drink to a restaurant. Make sure she’s actually interested in the activity as well. If you’ve played it safe all night long, she wants nothing to do with that. Pay for her dinner at the one place you KNOW will pay for it. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but if you know she doesn’t drink hardly anything, don’t take her toail too off the bar. You’re a man… take care of her.
4. Do talk about yourself.
This is probably the easiest and most basic way to captivate women. Let’s be honest here. Most of us like to talk about ourselves. Heck… we even like to talk about ourselves more than women do… so why not practice? You are boasting about something in your life, and by talking about it, more people are more likely to become interested in it. Let her know your ambitions, success, fun etc. Get her asking questions, because she doesn’t want to talk about her own world, she wants to talk about yours.
5. Be a gentleman.
This is probably the most important of all. Remember that as a man, you’ve got to offer her the most notable thing you have going on. If you’re a mechanic, be a mechanic. If you’re a lawyer, be a lawyer. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to make more money than her, but offer her a drink, pick her up for a date, go somewhere on a date. Make her feel special. What a jerk nowadays, it’s all about letting her know you care, and being a classy gentleman.
And there you have it! These are the most obvious tips for approaching women. If you need additional help, don’t hesitate to check out my website, where I go into much more complex strategies for approaching women and creating attraction.